四他

接受他
面对他
解决他
放下他

tennineten
ten percentage been decided by the fate
but ninty percentage is on our hands
we can decide our feeling to face the problem which is out of our control
we can solve the problem that we are facing

story
A child have been accidently spoiled a cup of coffee on the father's shirt
but the father is going to work soon
the father is in anger and scold the child harshly
" Look !!! What stupid thing that you have been done !!! I'm rushing time !!!"
then turn to his wife and complain
"Why you put the coffee there !!! you don't know the kid will spoil the coffee !!!"
before he get the clothes change, he told his child
"BE SURE you later take the school bus !!!"
but .... the child is scared and keep on crying
after the father changed his clothes in hurry, he saw his child did not take the school bus and still crying.
He is angry and shout
" Faster !!! get the child to the school !!!"
and on the way to the school, the wife say no words and the child just keep on crying
while the father is still angrying.
After sent his wife to work and the child to school, he go to his office.
when he is in the office, he only notice he forget to bring his bag.
whole day goes by a bad mood.

IF
the father did not scold the child and spoke politely
"ok ... I'm going to change the clothes. be ready to get the school bus child."
then the child won't cry
the whole day will goes smoothly.

everythings is just a thinking and mindset of your own.
change it, the world is different.